Bzalthek wrote:
Personally I'm all for women in combat units, provided they are as fully capable and trained as male soldiers, and held to the same standards as their male counterparts.
There will obviously be a higher percentage of women who are not able to meet those expectations. Tough shit. That's what the job calls for, that's the bar you'll have to meet.
Bolding mine. The biggest problem, IMO, is rooting out the difference between 'You didn't measure up' and 'We stacked the deck against you'. And to some people, this difference truly isn't obvious. I've known women who complained that they were facing a glass ceiling in their jobs...when in reality it was their own choices that were hurting them.
Then there are also people who play that card intentionally as a way to get ahead.
The former at least I can understand, it's easier to believe that it's something else and not YOU when things aren't going well at your job. Especially if it's a problem that no one is telling you about (which happens quite often). It's easier to see the pattern of '
I'm a woman and they're all bully boys', rather than
'I dress like a whore and no one wants to deal with the walking lawsuit potential and the unprofessional statement my attire makes to every client/head office/human being who comes by'.
The clothing one is one I've seen more than once, and one I've had to address with subordinates more than once. All have thought it profoundly unfair and everyone else's problem (not a smart attitude in the workplace, srsly). All have believed men do not face this problem...and they're wrong. Men do, but usually in another fashion. I've known men who didn't progress because...quite frankly...they smelled bad. Or had horrifically bad breath. Unless you're working alone, it causes problems. And many times people do not want to address it with you because usually you smelly motherfuckers become ultradefensive about it. I don't care if it's a medical problem or what...do
something about it. Or don't get into people's personal space.
Most jobs aren't purely about the work that you do, unless you're sitting alone in a room waiting for your code to compile.
So if you work with other human beings in any capacity, then there are other aspects which are being judged. I've known people who've kept their jobs despite being almost completely incompetent...because they're likable. And I've seen people who were very very good at their jobs be marked for termination because they're contentious assholes.
All that being said, life and work...isn't fair. Never has been. That's no excuse not to try to make it as fair as possible. That shouldn't ever mean stacking the deck though.