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PostPosted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 11:40 AM 
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1. The confidence is the biggest factor IMO. Even if you don't have it, fake it, you have nothing to lose.<
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2. I don't like specific rules like call after this # of days, or do XYZ by date ten. Every dating situation is different, play it by ear. I do like this general rule of thumb though; women want a man who likes to be with them, but does not need to be with them. At least for the dating period. If you find yourself calling multiple times without a call back, or stopping by her work unexpected, you are likely falling into the "need" catagory. <i></i>


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PostPosted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 11:44 AM 
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Quote:1) Work on your confidence/self-esteem issues.<
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Walk up to 100 women and just start chatting to them. Now don't go out of your way to speak to them. Talk to them in the grocery checkout line, the gas station pumping gas next to you, etc. They don't have to be pretty or young, just women. It will go a long way in improving your confidence.<
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Never chase, if you go out with a woman and had a good time, toss her a machine a call the next day and say "This is "XXX" and I can't talk long but jsut wanted to tell you it was nice to meet you and I had a great time last night. Have a great day, buh bye." Don't commit to calling anytime soon and if she is interested, she will write down your number from the caller ID and will probably put it in her cell. After 4-5 days if she hasn't called toss her another call. "Hi, this is XXX I only have a min, i was jsut clearing out my called numbers list on my phone and saw your name and realized I hadn't called you for a while. Wanna get together sometime soon? lemme know, i gotta go. Buh bye." This leaves the ball in her court. If she wants to see you again, she will call, but since you didn't say you would be calling back to confirm she now knows that she must make the next move. If she doesn't then you know she isn't interested. If she does then you are on your way. <
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If she does call, shoot down the first 1 or 2 nights she offers herself as available claiming previous plans. Then suggest a quick lunch someplace close to her work. That way she can tell her co-workers she has a lunch date and they can be sly and check you out and give her their opinion. Make the lunch quick and offer to pay for it "Can I buy your lunch as well?" when the bill comes. Don't let her jsut assume you will be paying. When you are ready to leave Shake her hand (like orme said)Tell her you enjoyed the qucik get together and say "Maybe we can do it again sometime, I am in this area on XXX and XXX days around this time every week". Say goodbye and walk off. <
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Now she is wondering WTF is going on, NOW she is wondering if YOU find her appealing, not the other way around. Now she will call you again because deep down inside she is thinking "If he only wants to have lunch with me, who is he seeing for dinner!!!." <
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The next time she calls she will be adamant about it being an evening date.<
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PostPosted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 11:51 AM 
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 Post subject: Slumpbuster time?
PostPosted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 12:04 PM 
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I should have read Orme's post before I made mine. Stupid me. He hit it all right on the head.<
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There is one thing that I think we all have missed that might help you before you jump back into the dating scene, CC.<
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Maybe it's time you had yourself a 'slumpbuster'...<
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Maybe I'm reading into this wrong, but based on the last few posts re: this type of thing, I'm guessing that, well, just maybe, it's been a while for you to, you know, get a little 'luvin'. And also from your posts, I'm getting a feeling that your Mojo needs a little boost. It's all good, happens to all of us. But sometime, you need to get out of that slump to properly get back into the game. <
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Now, a proper slumpbuster is someone you don't know, and, realistically, it's not really someone you would consider dating. Now, I wouldn't go slumming for a slumpbuster. There are some perfectly adequate women available in any location for busting a slump. Some guys say 'Just go hoggin', but thats a little harsh. However, your slump bust may not be the prettiest thing on the block. They usually aren't, but thats not what should concern you. Getting the slump
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eaking a batting slump in baseball. It doesn't have to be pretty. It just needs to be a hit. And then it all kinda falls into place after that.<
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1) Ya, you pretty much need to go to a bar to find this.<
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3) Don't waste alot off time. If you can't get it done with one the night you meet her, don't bother any more. Then your playing the dating game. And then your troubles start all over again.<
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Go to a bar you don't go to much, but has your kind of people. It's best to blend in. I'd recommend hitting this bar 2-3 times before working on your 'bust'. Scout it out. Find the girl that is always there by herself, or with a few friends, but is always the last to leave. She's your huckleberry, cause she's hanging out hoping to get hit on. Get a drink or two in ya for some extra courage. No offense, honestly, but maybe you could use just a little bit right about now. <
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Now, here's the key. Your plan is to hit it and quit it. It may sound piggish, but bet your ass, women have done this too, so dump the nice guy inhibitions about this being rude at the door. This is all about you buddy, and if you hold anything back, your just gonna sink in further. So, have some good Lie's, and some great story's under your belt. Have em down pat, and commit to em. Make up some crazy shit, and some funny stories. If you can't make up your own, hell, skim through these forums. I'm sure there is a story or two here that, properly modified, will do the trick.<
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Be sure to find out what she likes to drink. Your buying now, bucky. Don't force them on her, but keep em coming. Just don't get her nasty, sloshy drunk. That can lead to a date rape charge, or at the very least, her vomiting in the bathroom just as you were ready to slip a hand down her blouse. Just get her to the point where she's having fun and those inhibitions aren't bugging her to be the 'good girl' that night. And for god's sake, make sure she laughs, alot. Don't bother with any poor me stories, and for god's sake, don't say 'it's been a while'. Remember, your image to
eak this slump is Harry Fucking Houdini. Your the god damned magic man, as far as she knows, and you can be sure that is what your mark is looking for. <
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Just be a fucker when it's all done. And don't feel bad about using a woman for sex. That guilt will fuck up the slumpbust. After you get your luvin, you'll walk a little taller, feel a little bolder, and that stink of desperation will no longer follow you like PePe LePew. <
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Say what you will, it's a tried and true solution that will help ya get back on track. I've used it when I was having some confidence issues way back in the day. I'm sure other's here have too.<
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PostPosted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 12:07 PM 
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Attraction is 9% looks, 90% confidence, and 1% miscellaneous bullshit women say they want, though in reality do not give nearly as much weight as they think they do. And when I say 9% looks - I'm talking basic hygiene, clean clothes, you don't smell like an armpit, etc. I seriously doubt that you're that far gone that you're at least not hitting those standards <
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And the best dating advice I have ever heard, is pretty simple:<
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Learning the dating game is sorta like learning to fish. A beginner will yank back on the rod at the first sign of a nibble. You'll never land one like that, you have to learn to let her hook herself.<
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I don't know you at all, though I'm willing to take a bet that I can guess something about you. You get along great with women that you have no real intention with. The flirty little old ladies, your friends' girlfriends, her friends, etc. Take an honest look. Am I right or wrong here?<
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Best example is the little old lady syndrome. You know those little old ladies that you flirt with like mad? Because there is no intention or expectation, you're perfectly at ease and at the top of your game. That's how you need to learn to be all the time, because most of the time it isn't what you say, it's how you say it. Women can smell desperation, games, and intent from MILES away. And 99% of the time, any hint of those will outright kill any chance you had.<
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All those chicks you get along great with are no different from the ones you evaluate and seek as potential mates.<
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A couple years ago, I gave some serious consideration as to why I was always alone on the weekends, or the only thing I had to do was go out was sip beers with my friends. The reasons for it were so painfully simple, that I was missing them because they were so right up in my face I couldn't see them.<
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I never really attempted to talk to women. And when I stumbled onto one, I was riddled with self doubt. I was a total douche bag because I had no idea what I was doing.<
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So I decided to make an effort. I had zero idea of what I was doing, so it was trial by fire. At first, it was horrendous. I'd get flat out shot down right out of the gates nearly every time. However, I didn't give up, I was sick of being lonely, and tired of looking at my douche bag friends landing women left and right when I knew I was better looking, smarter, and had more to offer.<
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Then it hit me one day as I was getting showered for work one day after a particularly bad night at the club.<
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It didn't matter. It honestly did not matter one single bit as I stood there, I had gotten shot down 4 or 5 times the night before ... that my failures were completely, totally, and utterly inconsequential. The only person who was keeping score was myself. It doesn't matter how many times you fall flat on your face, because almost no one remembers that Babe Ruth struck out nearly twice as often as he hit a home run in his career.<
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It's kinda ironic how that works, I found confidence in my failure. It wasn't a lot, but it was a start. Though that's the key here, you have to stop looking at the difficulty in the opportunity, and start looking at the opportunity in the difficulty. It's all about the right mindset.<
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And the second best thing I ever learned about dating: Be honest. With yourself, about you, and the girl your interested in. Don't get into the trap of seeing things how you want them, you need to see things for how they are. The easiest person to lie to is yourself.<
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I'm 24, I still live at home, I work in a pizza joint struggling to go back to school, drive a car that doesn't belong to me. I'm not even great looking, pretty much Average Joe - 20 lbs overweight, big nose, kinda goofy looking. Yeah, I'm pretty much a fuck up as it stands now. Though I know there are good things about me, and I play to my strengths. I don't proffess I can seduce women at the drop of the hat, far from. Though I rarely have a weekend now where I don't have at least 1 or 2 options for a date. If I can do it, anyone can =P<
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Hope this helps. I kept it kinda general and short, as others have nailed down some good specifics for your situation. Dating isn't easy, though it isn't nearly has difficult as a lot of people make it out to be. <
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PostPosted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 12:47 PM 
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Except...I knew that I'd walk all over him. If he and I ever had a relationship, I would have abused the hell out of his willingness to bend over backwards for me.<
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PostPosted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 2:00 PM 
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I'm really glad I didn't have to go through all these rules everyone is listing, or I would have never gotten married. Everyone is making dating/relationship a lot more complicated than it needs to be. Just be yourself and relax. If you play games, you'll end up with someone who isn't right for you.


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PostPosted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 2:03 PM 
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It can't have changed that much.I'm not that old /cry and I'm pretty sure mono is younger then me but I could be wrong. <
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Quote:A man that can (and will) fix things around the house. A man that will keep my car tuned up and air in the tires... <
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Orme and Khanx summed things up pretty well I think. No offense CC, but I actually cringed reading some parts of your posts. I'm sure you are well meaning, but the bottom line is (at least the way I try to look at it) that you should view any girl as being lucky to be with you, and not visa versa. Again, the confidence issue everyone is alluding to. This is also why some people use alcohol as a crutch, because it can help remove some of your inhibitions and make you appear more confident by removing some of your trepidations.<
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PostPosted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 5:17 PM 
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Mono - the rules were there when you were dating. They've been around forever.<
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Here's what I think and it's probably just phrasing what Orme said in a different way more or less.<
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Quote:Putting your best foot forward is something else. I wear clothing in the comfort of my home in front of my computer that no one outside of my home would EVER see me in. When I go out, I'm almost always dressed extremely nicely. I'm not being fake or real either time, it's simply how I choose to present myself and how I'm comfortable.<
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Quote:I'm really glad I didn't have to go through all these rules everyone is listing, or I would have never gotten married. Everyone is making dating/relationship a lot more complicated than it needs to be. Just be yourself and relax. If you play games, you'll end up with someone who isn't right for you.<
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The divorce rate is rising because there's no taboo around it any more. If people don't get along, they just bail. It's a by-product of our ME ME ME society, not the rules of dating, heh.<
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Quote:The divorce rate is rising because there's no taboo around it any more. If people don't get along, they just bail. It's a by-product of our ME ME ME society, not the rules of dating, heh.<
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Before my grandpa died, we were sitting around one day and he gave talked to me about being married to my grandma (for like 54 years until she died) and how it was never easy, and there were years and years of struggle to keep it afloat. He said a constant effort needs to be put in by both sides in order for it to work, but if that is truly the person you love, you will be willing to put that effort in and make sacrifices. He also told me that for every tough time, there were 20 good times which made it all worthwhile. <
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And last, but not least, as Orme said, divorce isn't taboo anymore. I would say that the reaction from most friends and family after a divorce would be sympathy or at worst, shock for not seeing any problems. I don't think many people are looked down upon or shunned for divorcing anymore. Case in point, both sets of my grandparents went to church every Sunday, sometimes during the week, plus masses they did EVERY year for dead loved ones on the day they died, crucifixes, statues of Mary/Jesus etc...you get the picture. Between both sets, they had 7 kids. 4 of the 7, including both my parents, got divorced. From what I hear, none got shit for it from a "Marriage is sacred and you
oke that vow" standpoint. Needless to say, if the 14th to 17th Apostles known as my grandparents (everyone knows Chris Rock is the 13th) didn't blow a gasket over it, it's a good indication at least for me personally, that it's become acceptable. Shit, even Prince Charles divorced, then re-married a divorcee which is a HUGE no-no for someone in line for the throne (Although it had happened before).<
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To what you said Ark, the single biggest factor (learned this recently and can't remember who did the study, but it was a very serious study into poverty and child rates) in how many children a woman will have...is the age at which she marries.<
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Quote:Average marriage age for men is the highest it's been since at least 1890 (27.1 years old) and Women is also the highest (25.3) since then.<
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Quote:Unfortunately there's no easy or pat answers where children are involved. Divorce in some instances is 'better' for the children than parents staying in an unhappy marriage, but all of it has challenges where children are involved. The only good part there is *most* parents try their best to set aside acrimonious feelings and do what they believe is best for the kids. Some even succeed.<
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The people I know 'staying for the kids' are not having constant screaming fights or anything like that...well except for one. I have my own opinions as to what *I* think they should do...well in most instances...but in reality, it's a tough choice to make. <
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Quote:The biggest single factor affecting the age a woman will marry, is her personal earning power. If a woman is able to be financially independant (not even equal to the earning power of men, just enough to support herself outside of her family decently) the age at which she marries jumps substantially. And if a woman is marrying 10 years later, the number of children she will have is greatly reduced.<
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Quote:To [most] of you women, you turn us into what you hate! Almost EVERY guy I've known tried the nice guy route first, and all that lands you is a "friend", bottom line.<
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That's woman speak for "You're a nice person, but I will never ever fuck you". It means that you're a decent enough person and we'd like to have you around, but you're not relationship material.<
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I guarentee it will probably be fixable. Otherwise they wouldn't want you as a 'friend'. It has nothing to do with being a nice guy and nice guys never win and only assholes get women. It's because most women won't be blunt and say, "You're not up to my level of attraction, so I'm not interested in fucking you. Ever." Though for most women physical attractiveness isn't as important on the scale as it is [generally] for most men. <
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For guys who get the friends speech all the time though, there's a reason. Sooner you discover it and remedy it, the happier you'll be. The Birth of Tarot (NSFW)<
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PostPosted: Thu Apr 20, 2006 5:50 AM 
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Cut the shit. Like myself, you play video games, so you are probably like most guys here. A neglecting nerd.<
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PostPosted: Thu Apr 20, 2006 6:38 AM 
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Quote:Though for most women physical attractiveness isn't as important on the scale as it is [generally] for most men.<
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Discounting what television holds up as fact, I've seen surveys that indicate the exact opposite of what you just said. There was even a thread here that indicated the exact same thing last year or so, and iirc you were in agreement. <i></i>

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